Give or get

“What you give is what you get” I was taught.

But who said that you would be getting it from the person you gave and at the time when you need it!

I kept giving whatever I wanted. Few were the ones who valued and others took it for granted.

“What you give is what you will get”, there was one addition “but you are not meant to expect. For they bring the disappointment.”

What I was taught and what I learned weren’t always the same. What you give is hardly what you get and what you get is hard to give!

We gotta learn to give and disown it the next moment. Well, that’s less difficult than to own the pain of unfulfilled expectations.


Thanks for reading!

Published by Chetna

Hello! First of all ,thank you for stopping by in this city and a heartfelt welcome to you. Myself Chetna,just an ordinarily different girl like you. At times ,I have literally tsunami of emotions in me about various things going on near me.And so here I am ,to calm down that tsunami ,so that the sea inside me can feel peace and have the pleasure of your ship sailing through it!! Here I will be posting my write ups , quotes and some of my favourite pick ups from the stories or novels. I will always be all ears on how you feel after and about reading my posts.So feel free to share your precious views .Hope you will have a good journey! Happy reading!❤

44 thoughts on “Give or get

  1. “What you give is what you will get”, there was one addition “but you are not meant to expect. For they bring the disappointment.”

    Yup, expectations kill more and give more pain and yes, we never get the same from same person but we do get it back in some form or another or when it is too late, I guess 😅

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  2. The whole content is aptly described my dear!!
    Expectations!!! Oh my god! Its very hard to overcome! It just naturally comes! And we should resist it and be wise!
    And thank you so much for reminding this, to give without expecting anything in return….. Just like hindi lesson
    ‘Naiki kar aur dariyan me daal’

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  3. Very true and realistic it is!!
    We are taught that we get what we give, but this very statement sounds to me hollow in its essence.
    No matter what you do for others, you mostly don’t get that in return whatever it is love, respect,support etc.
    Sometimes you expect more and when get less in return, you feel disappointed.
    And sometimes you do less and expect less, but when you get more in return, you may feel a bit guilty about that.
    But EITHER way you do not feel content and thoughts keeps on racing in your mind and puzzling you.
    And then comes the age old idealistic thinking in picture that we should not expect as that only leads to disappointed and emotional trauma and you should be just and fair to everyone.
    But MAN that cannot be the case as expectations are bound to exist in every relationship
    How can you eliminate them??
    I don’t know about others but I haven’t been able to adapt this idealistic thing till date…
    Maybe I am not mature enough
    I don’t know 😵
    But such questions keeps on puzzling me day and night 🌃.
    Whether we should be good or fair even if the other is hurting us Or not behaving bad with us? Or if we are happy to do something for someone but the other is not returning the same, so should we continue or should we stop??? 😵
    Thank you for taking up such a relatable topic
    Keep writing
    Keep sharing
    Keep confusing 😆🤣

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  4. We truly give, when we give a part of ourselves and yes expectations are the main cause of all kinds of sadness.. So wonderfully written we are taught many things but we learn a lot of different things based on our experiences. Thanks for sharing such a beautiful & meaningful post! 🙏👌

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  5. Yes to give it and forget is definitely better than to cling to that thing with ropes of expectations because that rope’s tensile strength depends on the other person and not on us! So, giving control of your happiness to somebody else will never assure you 100%

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    1. It’s better to not even let that rope touch you. It’s not easy but neither impossible.

      It reminded me of that Geeta shloka which Hem Kr. sirnhad taught us

      When Arjun said controlling our ‘man’ is as tedious as controlling wind. But then Krishna said:
      Abhyasen tu kauntey vairagyen ch ghriyate!
      Om Shanti. _/\_

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  6. Chetna, expecting something in return takes away the joy of giving as well as leading to unfulfilled expectations. This is a very wise post! 🙂

    It is a comfort to know that many good opportunities and happy events will come into our lives. We need to continue to live in a positive way and be ready to “seize the day.” All the best! Cheryl ❤

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  7. Thought provoking… yes, expectation is the root cause of all the problems…
    Give and forget
    for you’ll receive what you deserve,
    and not what you expect,
    So, I gave nothing away,
    and kept collecting things I received,
    only to realize one day,
    that they have all rotten with time.
    Now, I receive no more, and can give no more…
    I am a ruin…
    Just a thought that came to my mind… always a pleasure reading you Chetna… :))…keep giving out your words…:)

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    1. Exactly! We gotta give not because we want it back but we would have wanted the same.
      I really don’t know what to say on this..but just want to say that no-one in this world is not broken!
      And the luckiest ones are those who know how to pick themselves up and walk again not because they ain’t hurt but because they are strong to be stagnant.
      So, you could be a ruin but not broken!
      I just wanted to say something to make you feel good, Sundaram. I hope the purpose is served.
      And thank you for being here!

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